Phillip G. Gubler and Thomas J. Bayles, attorneys at law |
You just got married— for the second time. While everyone is congratulating you on
finding love again, your children are disappointed you did not enter into a Prenuptial
Agreement before your marriage. Your new
spouse’s children likely share similar concerns. You and your new spouse are adults; you have
a verbal agreement about paying bills and handling your estates. Why are your children so concerned about your
new life? Are they overreacting?
Many who have experienced a parent in a second marriage
attest that it’s a time of excitement.
They hope their parent will be happy and enjoy companionship yet there
are many underlying concerns that can be a white elephant in the room during
conversation. Will I still inherit my
mother’s rocking chair? Or will it be
mistaken by the other side of the family for their great grandmother’s? In order to avoid further turmoil at the time
of a parent’s death there are practical matters that need to be
considered. For instance, each partner
will bring assets and debts to the marriage.
You may both own homes and need to decide in which home you will
reside. There will be questions about
taxes, upkeep, and whether the new spouse will continue to live in the home
after you pass away. Children from a previous
marriage may feel threatened that their perceived “inheritance” will go to the
new spouse or the new spouse’s children.
In addition, the new spouse’s asset to debt ratio may not be favorable
and you may not be in a position to pay your new spouse’s debts. Your children’s concern may be that your
assets will be depleted paying for debts that were not incurred by you.
One way
to keep each party’s assets and premarital debts clearly separate is by
entering into a Prenuptial Agreement before marriage. While that may be the recommendation from the
legal community and your children, a Postnuptial Agreement is another way to delineate
each party’s assets to keep them separate.
Prenuptial and Postnuptial Agreements, like any contract, must be
clearly written. They are voluntarily
signed by both parties, and indicate there has been reasonable disclosure of
the property or financial obligations of the other party. Litigation related to Pre- and Postnuptial
agreements almost always centers on whether the terms of the agreement are
clear, the agreement was signed voluntarily, and if the disclosure was reasonable. For this reason, we recommend that each
party review such agreements with their respective counsel.
Congratulations on finding love again. Let us help you preserve the peace in your
home and newly extended family. Whether
you are planning to marry again or have already remarried, it is not too late
to get it in writing.
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